As parents, people have the biggest of responsibilities. When they bring the bundle of joy home they are signing a lifetime contract. To guide, to cherish, to nourish, to develop, to protect, to aid. To be together in happiness, sorrow, fear, disappointment. To dance through the stages of life, together.
Being a parent is a really serious thing. Some people give it a lot of thought, some people don’t, some people just get thrown into it. Either way, none of this guarantees a good outcome, or not even a good but a standard outcome.
The way our society has it we all should come from nuclear families. Doting parents that think that their kids are the most beautiful, astonishing, amazing thing in the world and do their best to guide them along life.
It is not always the case.
I do not condone sympathy. While I wouldn’t wish my childhood to anyone I think I got a lot of good things out of it. I got strength, determination, an amount of sheer willpower that has helped me achieve all the things I’ve wanted in life. From moving to a foreign country through learning a new language and getting into university through to making a better future for myself whilst being a decent human being. I am a nice person if I say so. And I didn’t have a nice upbringing.
What I am trying to say is that hell is full of good intentions. That if as a parent you fuck up the biggest possibility is that your kids still love you. Will they forgive you? Not sure. But they still love you. So go ahead, throw an olive branch. Try to fix what went wrong, work on the mending.
If you are reading this and you have kids go and hug them, tell them they are cherished and loved. If you don’t have kids (like me) think about what would it be like. If you have kids and they are estranged think about rekindling, or at least trying to reach out.
All kids love their parents. Even if their parents are completely fucking up and totally suck at their job. It doesn’t last forever and it doesn’t always end well.. but it was there to start with. It is not too late to try to make amends. It is never too late to say I love you.
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